“Maybe there is more truth in how you feel than in what actually happens.”

Ann Brashares, The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants

Brashare was born in 1967 and published her first novel at age 34.

It’s important to acknowledge how we feel and to acknowledge that it matters. This does not mean to say to ignore the facts and to twist reality, but sometimes it’s also important to acknowledge a feeling and to say that it is valid.

“Concession doesn’t necessarily mean defeat, Charlie.”

Craig Silvey, Jasper Jones

Context: Charlie’s father is explaining to Charlie why it would go easier if Charlie didn’t butt heads with his mother all the time.

The quote stuck out to me as it’s something that is a personal struggle for me. For years I was always too proud to concede in any argument or fight, always thinking that if I were to back down from any argument, I would be seen as weak or the Loser. It took me years to understand that when personal relationships are involved, the only “losers” are the ones that allow their pride to override their affection for their loved ones.